Why people don’t get married during the Chaturmas ? There is a reason behind it, people believe that during this period the Deities sleep, the demons are active and harassing the humans. In the Chaturmas all religious observances like fasting, bathing in holy rivers occur.
A quote says –
वार्षिकांश्चतुरो मासान् वाहयेत् केनचिन्नरः ।
व्रतेन न चेदाप्नोति किल्मिषं वत्सरोद्भवम् ।।
Vaarshikanshchturo maasaan vahyet kenchinnarh |
Vraten na chedapanoti kilmishan vatsrodbhvam ||
Meaning : Every year during the Chaturmas , we should undertake some vrat otherwise we will incur the sin of the samvatsarodbhav (having missed the opportunity that year).
In Indian culture marriage is believed to be an important part of life. Life of a person is drastically changed in a day and the rituals they perform during this ceremony gives them a different feel towards life. Though the marriages occur whole year but according to the Hindu rituals there are few months in which people get married. According to Hindu religion four months are not suitable to get married that is called the Chaturmas . The Chaturmas are counted from July to mid October.
It is believed that the Chaturmas started from Devashayani Ekadashi when the Lord Vishnu and his fellow Gods and Goddesses believed to be sleeping for four months. Because during this period the Gods are resting, the Hindu marriages do not happen. People also avoid purchasing new assets and holding any auspicious ceremony during this period. There is no shubh muhurat or auspicious period from Devuthavani Ekadashi to mid of October.
According to the Hindu calendar the first two months of The Chaturmas are Saawan and Bhadon. During this season negativity of mind is at its peak. It is believed that a person’s mind is full of unfulfilled desires which is not a good sign for smooth relations. Due this reason in India marriages do not happen in this period. People thought that there will be more chances of divorce if people got married during this period.
With the start of wedding season Tulsi vivah is celebrates in many places. Many people do Tulsi vivah a spiritual wedding of plant Tulsi with Vishnu to mark the auspicious beginning of wedding season. It is also believed that lighting a diya in front of Tulsi during Kartik mas is very auspicious.
There is a story behind the Tulsi vivah. Once the Vrinda, a devotee of Vishnu, was married to the demon-king Jalandhar. Due to her piety and devotion to Vishnu, her husband became invincible and even Shiva had to enlist Vishnu’s help to vanquish Jalandhar. Vishnu disguised himself as Jalandhar and stayed with Vrinda. With her chastity destroyed, Jalandhar was no longer invincible and Shiva managed to kill him. Vrinda cursed Vishnu who turned into a black Saligram stone, before immolating herself. However, her soul was transferred to the tulsi plant, and according to a prophecy from Vishnu that he would marry Vrinda in her next avatar, He as the black Saligram married the tulsi plant on Prabodhini Ekadashi. Tulsi vivah is performed on this day.
The decision of marriage is the most important part of everyone’s life. People don’t want to take any chance. They perform wedding rituals according to their religious rituals. In India the religion is supreme. In the Hinduism it has utmost importance because they take every decision according to their patra, kundli or grah- nakshtra. These grah nakshtra give direction to our life to start the future better. It is necessary to calculate time and day for marriage according to the couple’s birth date. Marriage is believed to be a lifelong relation of two families and by these rituals we all create a society which follows some rituals of festivals and other to keep our tradition live to carry forward to the next generation.
( Kanchan Rastogi )